What does it mean to be an adult?

You wonder if this constant stress is normal or if you just have to work harder to figure out how to manage it all. You think about all the things you should be able to do on your own if you were only more disciplined, less tired, more focused, less idealistic. You know you’re pretty hard on yourself, you’re your own worst critic, but you’re skeptical that it’s possible to be kind to yourself and also get stuff done. You think maybe you should learn more about psychology or mindfulness, eat the right food, wake up earlier, practice more yoga, go outside more, or meditate for longer. At the same time part of you is fed up with all the advice about what you should do. You want to yell at yourself to grow up already. Individual therapy can support you to develop into the adult you want to be.

I work with adults who want to:
 

• Live with more congruence between their values and actions (so the inside matches the outside)

• Create and maintain authentic connection  

• Heal from childhood trauma and relationship wounds

• Manage the stress of it all: adulthood, work, intimacy, friendships, parents and other family stuff, the future

• Feel more at peace with their family now and across generations 

• Recover from burnout and not give all their energy away 

• Manage complexity, contradiction, and paradox


• Feel passionate and joyful again

 

There is no normal path to adulthood. I'm interested in supporting your path: you can develop a coherent narrative of where you've been, where you are now, and where you want to go.  Adult development is a dynamic emerging process and I can support you to be an active participant.
 

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Maybe you were socialized with cultural myths about adulthood: self-reliance, taking responsibility, making independent decisions, and achieving financial independence.
 You might even feel ashamed or a sense of failure when you feel dependent on others. 

 

I work from the perspective that you are both an individual and part of a whole, that health and resilience can be expanded through interdependence — you are part of a complex organic system of interdependent parts. You rely on others and others rely on you.
 

It is wise to ask for help to become the person you want to be.

 

Often, our deepest injuries happen in relationships. So does healing, transformation, and growth.

 

Development is a lifelong process. Often in childhood (and plenty often in adulthood) we find ourselves in situations we didn’t choose and we adapt in the best way we can with the options available at the time. Therapy can help you discover and consider the choices available to you in adulthood.

 

Lifelong development means childhood experiences can be transformed by experiences later in one’s life. You can be in an intentional relationship with yourself and your social environment.



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Together we can sort through the chaos and contradictions to stabilize your unique strengths and discover new possibilities. You can make choices that connect you to the kind of person you want to be and the kind of world you want to be a part of.